If you read my last post, then you already know all about my buddy Jerry. Well, weirdly enough I spent the day with Jerry yesterday, because he was in town from out of state... And we ended up talking about the very things I was writing about in the last post!
Well, it sounds like little has changed for my boy... Chicks (hot) still dig him and want to hang out with him because he's a great guy with a ton of great qualities. But, he's still not “closing” any of these women because he either “can't tell if they like him” or as in a recent escapade he forgot condoms.
[Okay, a side note about bringing condoms... BRING them! Even if you aren't planning to meet up with a girl or go try to pick up some girls, always have a rubber handy! They call them “protection” for a reason, to protect you from all kinds of bad shit that you don't want. When I was a freshman in college, I remember having to walk like 5 miles in the hot sun to get rubbers at some rural 7-11, and it sucked.]
Of course Jerry had an excuse for not bringing rubbers, he said that he didn't want the girl to think that he was like some 'player' guy who is just having sleeping with different women every night... Ridiculous!
Women enjoy sex. The girl Jerry was with wanted to have sex, it wasn't even their first time hanging out. It would have been totally cool with her if he busted out with condoms. It would've made him look good, not bad.
One reason guys don't bring condoms is that they don't want to set themselves up for failure.
They don't want to carry the same condom around for 12 months until it is all scuffed up and they end up throwing it out. Because that would be depressing, and they doubt themselves so much that they think a dry-spell like that is a real possibility.
Also 'nice guys' don't carry condoms with them.
And if you are hung up on being a 'nice guy' and presenting yourself as a nice guy to women, you don't want to be busting out with fresh packs of magnum sized condoms, and some new state of the art lubes and shit.
So being a 'nice guy' who doesn't bring condoms can be a major roadblock on your path to hooking up with women.
I can't even get into Jerry's story about the other girl he's been seeing and why he hasn't been able to hook up with her yet, I'll try to fit it into a future post. But... I promised to explain how a guy can overcome this 'nice-guy' syndrome, and start getting the success he wants...
I think that what it comes down to is become comfortable with yourself as a sexual creature with a sexual nature, and not trying to cover that up around women. A lot of guys have already written about this extensively... In Double Your Dating, David DeAngelo talks a lot about wussy guys and why they struggle so much, this is basically the same thing.
Guys need to learn to see themselves as desireable and get in touch with the fact that women want them.
This is why PUAs or pick-up artist type guys do so well with women, they KNOW that they are desirable. They have experience that tells them that they can succeed, so they believe it, and they project this confidence that they have in themselves around women.
So the short answer is: Be confident and bring condoms!
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