What Attracts Women Online?

What's up...

I just wrote a new article about what it is that attracts women online. It should be a good read for anyone whose starting out with online dating and trying to figure out the basics... Have a gander:

What Attracts Women Online?

If you don't know what you're doing, online dating can be a big waste of time and money.

However, if you can "crack the code" and figure out what attracts women online, internet dating can be a roller coaster ride of fun, passion, and wild sex. What's more... It can even lead you to the girl of your dreams!

So, what are the things that attract women online? And how can you leverage this knowledge to your advantage and start getting some love from the ladies? While common sense tells us that women like good looking men with decent incomes and high social status, there are other factors that can be even more powerful for attracting women...

Including: your masculinity, your attitude, and your ability to relate with women warmly and authentically.

So, Let's look at how you can feature these attractive characteristics in your online profile and pull tons of chicks:

1) Own Your Masculinity... Women want to be with a "MAN" not a boy and not a wussy wimp. This factor outweighs looks, money and social status except in the case of extreme gold-diggers and status seeking succubi. In my coaching practice, I find that 90% of the guys profiles I review really need to "man it up" a bit. This means not making needy statements, not appearing self-conscious in pictures, and not talking like a 13 year old boy!

2) The Right Attitude. Most guys strike out with women because they look at things completely wrong and have self-defeating attitudes. Although changing the ways that you think about life, women, and dating can take some effort on your part, the rewards are truly spectacular. Women respond best to men who can maintain an upbeat and unbeatable approach to life. You can call it "positivity" or an "abundance mind-state" but if you want to be maximally attractive to women, be sure to nurture your emotional state and stay amped about your life. No girl wants a glum or anxious guy and they will hit the back button fast if they see any signs of these in your profile.

3) Interpersonal Skills. This one trumps all... You've got to be able to talk to women and relate to them in ways that make them feel good and see you as an authentic man capable of a real connection. Women simply don't want to waste their time with guys who have a fake, awkward or sketchy vibe. And the last thing you ever want a woman to peg you as is a wanna-be pick-up artist. so definitely don't try to use any corny tactics on women, they can spot that b.s. coming from a mile away. The way you talk to women online is going to determine how they see you and whether the feel attraction for you. So don't blow it! I've got a program that's going to teach you exactly how to get your proverbial ducks in a row, and summon up a stampede of hotties.

So what do you think? Can you think of anything important I left of this list?
Till Next Time.
Stay Rugged
-Jake

Dealing With AMOGs The Alpha Way

Oh those PUAs (pickup artists) and their crazy acronyms... what with the AFCs the IOIs and of course... don't forget the DHVs! Ha ha larious.

So, today I thought I'd take a look at one of my favorite PUA acronyms, you gotta love this one... AMOGs, yep, AMOGs or Alpha Male Other Guys, those are the other alpha males who, according to widely published reports will try to make you look like loser in front of girls, cockblock, and basically keep you from accomplishing your missions to procure females.

Here's my take on AMOGs: they don't exist to me.

AMOGs don't really exist as such, I mean a guy is only an AMOG if you choose to think in those terms and put that particular label on people. I don't and that's why they don't exist for me.

I think that the whole concept of AMOGs springs from a scarcity mindset. A mind-set where you are in competition with all of these other guys for women who are like trophies or something, WTF, it doesn't need to be like that.

I've found that I do a lot better when I look at everybody I run into as a potential friend, instead of a potential competitor, and this goes for business and pleasure. Having an adversarial vibe is what really makes a guy look like a loser to everybody.

Look at it this way, nobody else really has the power to cockblock you, you just cockblock yourself by not knowing how to deal with them the right way mentally.

So, what do you do if some guy gets in the way of you talking to the girl that you want to talk to?

Here are a few tips:

1) Don't call him an AMOG. If you call guys AMOGs, what you are basically saying is that they are "alpha-males" which is a compliment. Why would you choose to think about them like that? how does that benefit you? Furthermore, if the guy is being aggressive that's usually a pretty clear that he's not an 'alpha-man' he wouldn't need to show aggression, he would just naturally dominate.

2) Realize that it's not his fault. He doesn't know you, he doesn't know that you are the man and that he should respect you, but that's not his fault. If you are at a bar he's probably just a little drunk and he's about to go home alone, and possibly barf, so don't worry about him.

3) It's not a competition. It's not like you can just have an arm wrestling match and the girl is going to go home with the winner. Its up to her who she's going to choose, so sit back like the real alpha-man and let her make the right choice. Instead of worrying about how to handle other dudes, worry about getting things off to a strong start with the girls you talk to so that they won't be open to other guys who try to butt in.

4) If it's you who's butting in, realize that it's rude to try to take girls away from other guys, so you've pretty much got it coming. The best idea is to talk to the dudes in the group and just try to feel out the situation to make sure you aren't stepping on another guys toes. If one of the other guys is 'claiming' the girl you like but she seems interested ask yourself if it is worth it to talk to this girl when their are probably other girls nearby that you could talk to without needing to worry about a third wheel.

5) Either tell the guy to go away, tell the girl to go somewhere with you or just ignore him. In most situation, if the girl is feeling you, she will ignore the other guy and talk to you until the 'AMOG' gets the hint and leaves. If he is clueless and the problem persists for more than a couple minutes, it will likely become intolerable, so you need to end it. Either tell your girl you want to leave, or tell him to leave depending on what is going on logistically.

6) Lift weights. If you look physically formidable, very few dudes will try to cockblock you unless they are actually the girls boyfriend.

So, do you see why you shouldn't worry about other dudes? What are they going to do? Outwit you and make you look bad in front of some girl? Just hang back, be friendly and don't pay them any mind. Focus on the girl, enjoy relating to her, don't let some knucklehead break your focus. If guys are straight up insulting you or making fun of you in front of a girl, you should definitely pay attention to Tip #6 Lift Weights because that's a serious problem that should be addressed!

I'll do more of these PUA acronym breakdowns... Anyways until next time don't hate the AMOG hate the game

Be A Real 'Nice-Guy'... Bring Condoms On Your Dates

If you read my last post, then you already know all about my buddy Jerry. Well, weirdly enough I spent the day with Jerry yesterday, because he was in town from out of state... And we ended up talking about the very things I was writing about in the last post!

Well, it sounds like little has changed for my boy... Chicks (hot) still dig him and want to hang out with him because he's a great guy with a ton of great qualities. But, he's still not “closing” any of these women because he either “can't tell if they like him” or as in a recent escapade he forgot condoms.

[Okay, a side note about bringing condoms... BRING them! Even if you aren't planning to meet up with a girl or go try to pick up some girls, always have a rubber handy! They call them “protection” for a reason, to protect you from all kinds of bad shit that you don't want. When I was a freshman in college, I remember having to walk like 5 miles in the hot sun to get rubbers at some rural 7-11, and it sucked.]

Of course Jerry had an excuse for not bringing rubbers, he said that he didn't want the girl to think that he was like some 'player' guy who is just having sleeping with different women every night... Ridiculous!

Women enjoy sex. The girl Jerry was with wanted to have sex, it wasn't even their first time hanging out. It would have been totally cool with her if he busted out with condoms. It would've made him look good, not bad.

One reason guys don't bring condoms is that they don't want to set themselves up for failure.
They don't want to carry the same condom around for 12 months until it is all scuffed up and they end up throwing it out. Because that would be depressing, and they doubt themselves so much that they think a dry-spell like that is a real possibility.

Also 'nice guys' don't carry condoms with them.

And if you are hung up on being a 'nice guy' and presenting yourself as a nice guy to women, you don't want to be busting out with fresh packs of magnum sized condoms, and some new state of the art lubes and shit.

So being a 'nice guy' who doesn't bring condoms can be a major roadblock on your path to hooking up with women.

I can't even get into Jerry's story about the other girl he's been seeing and why he hasn't been able to hook up with her yet, I'll try to fit it into a future post. But... I promised to explain how a guy can overcome this 'nice-guy' syndrome, and start getting the success he wants...

I think that what it comes down to is become comfortable with yourself as a sexual creature with a sexual nature, and not trying to cover that up around women. A lot of guys have already written about this extensively... In Double Your Dating, David DeAngelo talks a lot about wussy guys and why they struggle so much, this is basically the same thing.

Guys need to learn to see themselves as desireable and get in touch with the fact that women want them.

This is why PUAs or pick-up artist type guys do so well with women, they KNOW that they are desirable. They have experience that tells them that they can succeed, so they believe it, and they project this confidence that they have in themselves around women.

So the short answer is: Be confident and bring condoms!

The Problem With Nice Guys a Case Study a.k.a. Why Nice Guys Don't Get Laid

What's up peeps,

First of all, when I talk about "nice guys", I'm not talking about nice as in: kind, pleasant, friendly. Those things are all good. I'm really talking about are timid guys who are afraid to take charge or be sexual with women.

So, now that we have that cleared up, being a timid "nice-guy" is like an epidemic among men. It's definitely up there as a reason guys don't get laid or get girlfriends.

In fact if a guy's only *problem* is that he's too nice, then he's in good shape, you can fix it.

So, I've got a story the illustrates the whole "nice guy" problem pretty well...

I've got this friend I'll call Jerry, who has a really hard time getting laid or getting a girlfriend. In fact he's never had a real girlfriend, and he would really, really like one.

The thing about Jerry is that he really should be good with women. He's in pretty good shape, he dresses alright, he's a good looking dude, he supports himself fine and he has a great personality. I love hangin' with Jerry, he's my homeboy!

In fact, girls like Jerry. He has female friends, girls hit him up on Facebook all the time, and he gets numbers regularly from attractive girls, and so on. He even has girls in his social circle telling other people that they have a crush on him.

So he really should be doing well with women.

The trouble is that Jerry refuses to take the lead with women or be aggressive in any way.

As a result, girls who are initially interested in him, quickly lose interest and see him as "just a friend".

It usually goes something like this:

Jerry will meet a girl and start obsessing about her... He'll get her number, but instead of just calling her and asking her out he'll text her, and IM her, and draw it out, and wonder why she isn't texting him back etc...

At this point, many girls will withdraw, because they know that something is not quite right here.

The others, who obviously have a higher level of interest, will hang in there for a while until he can get his act together and ask for the date.

Then, Jerry will f*ck up some more... He'll ask the girl what she wants to do and let her run the show. If she wants to go roller-blading, he'll go out and buy a pair of $100 "blades" so they can go do that together. Its truly preposterous!

But it gets worse... On the date Jerry won't be sexual or flirtatious at all. He'll just be a mellow friend.

I remember one night when Jerry was staying at my place he had this girl over hanging out with him and she was hot. I walked out to the living room to get something and they were squished up together on the love seat. So I excused myself quickly so as not to interfere with what I saw as and eminent situation about to unfold.

When I saw him in the morning, Jerry revealed that nothing had happened. The reason, he hadn't done anything, was because he "couldn't tell" if she wanted to fool around with him. So he had just sat there until she had to go home and sleep.

Ridiculous!

Then, Jerry kept pursuing her, he would text her every couple days, write to her on Myspace etc... A couple weeks later she invited him to a BBQ, and when he got there, she was with another DUDE!

So basically, this is what happens to nice guys, they act like eunuchs so they get treated like eunuchs, and that sucks...

Women want men who have balls. You need some kinda balls, they don't need to be huge, but you'll got to be able to flex 'em a little bit.

When you act timid, you aren't acting masculine, because you aren't taking the male role. And when you don't act masculine women don't see you as somebody they want to hook-up with, even if you are good looking, and friendly, and have good social skills.

You don't need to become an "alpha male" to do this. I'm not really a huge fan of that term... However, if you want to hook up with women, you MUST lead.

You've got to be comfortable with the fact that you are a man with needs, and that that is a good healthy thing. You also need to learn to be comfortable expressing this to women by flirting with them, having a sexual vibe with them, and not being afraid to escalate physically.

In my next post I'll talk about how to overcome this timidness, and reclaim your balls.